Cat lady life goals.

What's wrong with being alone?

Why does everyone expect you to be partnered up or married? As if even after things fell apart for you, your greatest goal should still be to find a man?

I feel like I'm learning that I'm happier single. I'm so much better off on my own. Atleast for now, it just feels right.

Why is that so strange? Why can't that be socially acceptable.

I control my own funds, control my own schedule and when I want to use my free time to do absolutely nothing or exactly what I want, there's no one around to complain about it.

I'm the keeper of my own heart and my own inner flame and if I don't let anyone in, no one can break it, no one can extinguish it.

Is it really so wrong to rely on myself? To trust only myself?

Why are others so afraid of me being lonely, I have everyone and everything I could ever need without adding a spouse to the mix.

Perhaps I'm just destined to be that cat lady, you know the one? The one with fifty cats, chasing kids off her lawn with a shotgun. It's something my Mum and I have joked about me being, for years! I've always been a bit of a Bridget Jones in the life department. But that's cool too, right? It's cool with me, atleast.

The spinster life seems pretty appealing to me, right now actually.

It's not like I'm completely against being in a relationship in the future or anything like that, I just don't think I should be expected to be partnered in order to fit a social quota.

Sometimes it feels like people just expect you to settle with someone, not only 'the one'. I'm not up for settling.. Human beings are living so long these days, I could literally be stuck with the person I settle with for the next sixty years, or more. I'm going to have to be sure to make the right choice in order to make it through that!

I've never really been great at ticking that 'life goal' grocery list; Engagement, house, marriage then babies. But I guess being non-traditional never really bothered me anyway.

Just recently someone pretty clever said to me "if you're going to let someone into your life, they're going to have to make it better. You already have a great life and if they can't add to it, why would you want the stress that comes with them". And those words smacked me in the face like a cold fish.

It's so right. That is so true.

If there is a perfect someone out there that is meant to be in my life, they will be. They'll find me when I least expect it. And in the meantime, I will enjoy me. I won't leave me, so I should take care of me. I should learn to love me properly, so I can learn how others should love me too.

I'm not lonely. My life is so full of love, full of family, friendships, pets and laughter. I'm not against letting someone new in, but I'm not desperate for them either. I'm not about to settle for less than what feels like perfection in my life. There was a time in my life when my choices were quite different to this, but I've come a long way. I'm in a better mindset.

I'm alone in the sense that I don't have a significant other, but I'm far from alone in life and I don't feel lonely.

That's not wrong, right?

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